How I committed a consent violation

While at Winter Fire 2020 I commited a consent violation, I am not writing this as an excuse, a defense, but as a recounting of the event and what I have learned. I do this in hope that my lesson might help others. I was doing violet wand demonstrations...

Some new toys that I found on Amazon

So I recently managed to get a couple of new electric toys that are fun pervertables. These are variants on some things I have used and found before and maybe you will enjoy them. If you use them and like them please let me know; I always appreciate any...

Why this site and this blog?

Initially I started this blog so that I had a place to post about violet wands, I still do work with the International Violet Wand Guild but there are limitations on what I could do there.  Over time things evolved and as I started doing more presenting and educating,...

What Sets Us Apart From Others?

As a team we bring the complete package to our presentations, Jersey Jenny a former teacher brings a huge class room presence as well as strong focus on the soft skills including negotiations when combined with Papa Bear Tony’s experience and technical knowledge we are able to bring a...

Electric Tickles

This year at DOWF2020 with some help I was able to setup a fun interactive adventure for the Carnival Spectacular. Dimensions of parts: Picture of parts: Link for Mylar Curtain Recent Views 10...

Extreme Electric Toy’s

Disclaimer: These are not actually toys but electrical tools, and use of these in any sort of BDSM play is at your own risk, and obviously the risk of the person you are using them on. I am merely providing information and reviews based upon my personal experience but...

Violet Wand – Q&A Palooza

You like violet wands? Have questions about them? This discussion formatted class gives you the opportunity to ask all of those nagging questions about violet wands, everything from science to hardware to whatever you want to know. This will be a very free form experience with guided experiments to...

Recognizing Incompatibility Does Not Need to Carry Blame or Judgment

Today’s thought nugget: Acknowledgement of incompatibility is not a rejection even though it almost always FEELS that way. Being told the way you are or the way you think does not line up with someone else can feel like your way is WRONG. It need not be that. In...

Class Handout Rough Body Play: A slap is a tickle.

YES Below the collar bone (above the breasts) Upper arms Forearms (potentially uncomfortable to striker) Butt Inner and outer thighs (note that inner thighs bruise much more easily than outer) Shoulder blades (as long as they’re flattened) MAYBE Breasts (repeated punching can break down breast tissue) IT band Hip/butt...

Seductive and Satisfying; Bedroom play with Violet Wands

This class focuses on how you can integrate violet wand into your intimate play.  How you use a violet wand to increase the heat in your sexual scenes and to enhance the wonderful sensations that partners can already share.  This is a strongly sexual class and will work best...

Adding Service to Your Dynamic (Group Discussion)

You often hear about service submissives, but this doesn’t have to be the only way to be in a service relationship. Service can be added to any dynamic and performed by anyone. In this guided discussion we will explore ways that you can add service to any dynamic, explore...

Kinking Separately From Your Partner (Group Discussion)

This guided discussion session is initially being presented at Naughty Noel based upon a request from Lady Plume the wonderful education coordinator for Studio58. It’s such a wonderful idea that I want to add it to our arsenal of available session options. Are you in a relationship where you...