Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

I really like the idea of FAQ’s

I think questions are important and I have a lot of them in life, so here you can find some of the ones I get the most.


What is a service top?

My personal definition: is someone whose pleasure or joy comes from doing kinky stuff to another.  If you get joy out of making someone else happy with your actions in a kink sense you might be a service top.  I try to provide the scene that I think the bottom wants based upon our negotiations.


What does a violet wand feel like?

It can be gentle like effervescent little bubbles, or sharp, like a knife or anywhere in between.  If you know what you are doing with a violet wand the range of sensations is amazingly diverse.


Is a violet wand safe?

Yes, it’s one of the safest electrical sex toys in the world…


What if I have…?

It is safest if you avoid going near electronic medical implants. If you have medical conditions such as pregnancy, epilepsy, diabetes, etc be safe and skip the violet wand, especially if you don’t know the top and how experienced they are.


Where can I buy…?

I cannot tell you what to do, but I can share with you what I have learned and choose to spend my own money.  So this is one of those questions that cannot be answered simply, it might be worth referring to my recommendations blog post.


A friend who is curious about wand play has a copper IUD. What precautions do I need to take? What areas should I avoid?

This question comes down to risk profile more than anything. Also even though I am using medical terms this isn’t meant to be construed that I am any sort of medical expert.

The amount of copper in most IUD’s is really small; less than a gram in most cases. Additionally the IUD is in behind the cervix in the uterus, which means even internal stimulation from a violet wand would end before the cervix, probably well short depending on the persons physiology. In open air the spark of most violet wands rarely exceeds two inches. There is a phenomena called the skin effect, which is part of the subject of a book by Uncle Abdul about violet wands and using them in kink play. Long story short it is highly unlikely that using a violet wand could cause a shock or even cause a heating effect to IUD but if it’s a point of concern for the would be bottom just stay away from the lower abdomen.

Reference for placement of UID:
https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/iud/whats-an-iud-insertion-like