Violet Wand Pre-Screening Questions

Violet Wand Pre-Screening Questions

This blog post is all about the questions that I use when I am going to play with someone new, this isn’t to say that the same discussion shouldn’t happen every time before doing a violet wand scene.  But you absolutely want to go through this with anyone you have not played with before.  These are useful for the top because you can help eliminate potential harm to the bottom (always bad news) as well as ensure you are aware of potential risks.  These are equally important to the bottoms so that they are genuinely agreeing to play to full disclosure and informed consent.  These are important tenants for R.A.C.K. (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) due to its nature violet wand play does not fall under the heading of SSC due to the inherent risks involved.

WARNING

Electrical play is edge play!

Safety Disclaimer

There are health risks despite all reasonable precautions. These risks can be nerve damage, desensitization, tissue damage, burns, permanent marks, etc. and with undiagnosed health conditions it is possible that it can result in death.

Make sure to go through the disclaimer, death is highly unlikely and there haven’t been a verified case of this actually happening but being a good RACK player its important to discuss the possibilities.

If a scene involves a lot of metal implements or is extremely intense it is possible to have small marks on the skin; there are basically minor first-degree burns.   For most people they will feel similar to a sunburn and typically will be itchy the next day.  This itchiness can be resolved typically with any skin moisturizer though for people with extremely sensitive skin (typically identified by the pale color of the skin) you might need to use a cortisone cream or aloe vera.

Suggested Pre-Play discussion:

Besides going through the checklist below it’s always a good idea to make sure both the top and the bottom are on the same page.  Make sure to discuss safe words so there are not any surprises.  This is a good way to tell the smart and experienced players from the rest.  These examples are common almost universally accepted safe words at least in english.

By default, I respond to these safe words: 

RED = STOP

YELLOW = Pause, allow me to process

GREEN = I am good to go, feel free to resume or continue what we are doing and I can take more intensity.

STOP = STOP! unless we have agreed to consensual/non-consent

Not everyone feels sensations exactly the same.  I like sharp sensations, canes, knives, electricity, these are  all things that I like and I have a good ability to process these sort of sensations, but I am not a fan of pinching or spanking or slapping, I tend to react negatively to these types of sensations,  In short although you might be comfortable with a strong hard paddling or spanking and be UBER-bottom that doesn’t mean that electricity might not be too much even at what I consider low intensity.  Take some time when starting the scene to talk to the bottom get a feel for how intense they perceive the various sensations to be.  Calibrate and communicate and everyone will be much happier and likely to want to play together again.

It is a good thing to discuss warm-up as well what one-person needs will be different from the next when it comes to warm-ups as well so find out how much warm-up the bottom likes to receive.  With violet wand play warm-ups not usually about time spend so much as ensuring the you progress carefully with the intensity.

 

How I do it:

I will ask you to describe the intensity of various attachments and toys used with the Violet Wand. I need a response on a scale of 1-10, how intense that particular sensation is.  How intense you would like your experience during the scene to be. For example: XXX was a 3 and I would like to play to 7 after warming you up.

Pre-Play Screening

  • Please ensure you are properly hydrated when we are going to do our scene.
  • If you use and sensation altering substances typically during play please make sure that I am aware of how they impact you so that I can decide is we are still doing our scene.
  • Please avoid wearing any: body oils, moisturizers, heavy perfumes, or substances on your skin that could potentially be flammable.
  1. Have you ever done Violet Wand play before?
  2. Have you ever had a negative experience during Violet Wand play or with electricity in general?
  3. Do you have an implants or health conditions that could be exacerbated by electricity? Are you pregnant? Pregnant = no electricity. It should be fine, but safer is better.
  4. Do you have sensitive skin that sunburns easily?
  5. Do you have any stress conditions? Triggers? Concerns that emerge during BDSM play?
  6. Do you ever go nonverbal when you play? If you do is it a good or a bad thing? Should we consider using an object as a “safe word” something you can drop in order to get a timeout or a full stop?
  7. Is there anyone what you want present or not present during play?
  8. Are there any areas of the body you DO NOT want touched during play? What parts of your body?
  9. What safe words should I expect from you and what do they mean to you?
  10. Are you aware that electrical play is edge play, it is possible to be injured even permanently despite reasonable precautions? With this in mind are you still willing to play?
  11. What are you interested in getting from out scene? Do you want something that is purely sensual? Something sexual? Just an idea of what sort of sensations a violet wand can provide?
  12. What sort of aftercare do you typically require and or expect?
  13. Typically, how long until your endorphins drop-off, when would be a good time to follow up with you to ensure a good post scene experience?

Post Play Care:

If you experience any discomfort, pain or itchiness after a Violet Wand session, please make sure to use a moisturizer on any affected skin. If moisturizer doesn’t help, use either a cortisone cream or aloe vera.  If you are concerned about any possible side effect please let me know and call a physician or go to the emergency room.

 

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